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     Welcome to Body Talk
from a Christian Perspective
   with Cee Cee Michaela
Ms. Michaela does workshops for both secular and
 non-secular audiences.
She has presented her powerful speeches at hundreds of churches, schools and organizations in the US and abroad 

Here are a few topics that many of the youth want to know about! Even at a young age, you would be surprised what your child already knows. Their friends, TV, CD's, magazines and videos have probably already demonstrated or misinformed them. You cannot shelter them from these issues... it is everywhere and it has gotten out of control! If they are ready to talk... then talk to them.
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Here is a list of some STD's!
  • Bacterial Vaginosis
  • Candida Vaginitis Yeast Infection
  • Chlamydia
  • Fungal Infections In Men
  • Gentital Herpes
  • Gonorrhea
  • Hepatitis A
  • Hepatitus B
  • HIV
  • Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Gentital Warts)
  • Lymphogranuloma Venereum (LGV)
  • Molluscuum Contagiosum
  • Muco-Purulent Cervictitis (MPC)
  • Non-Gonoccal Urethritis (NGU/NSU)
  • Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID)
  • Pubic Lice Crabs
  • Scabies
  • Syphilis
  • Trichomoniasis (Trich)
  • Urinary Tract Infections (UTIs)
If I am a virgin and i am just fooling around with my boyfriend who is also a virgin, can I catch an STD?
YES! There ia a possiblity.Oral sex can transmit HIV (the virus that causes AIDS), hepatitis B virus,, herpes, genital warts, syphilis, and gonorrhea. Other acts, such as petting, could possibly transmit some of these infections as well. Contact with infected body fluids (particularly blood, semen and vaginal secretions) is necessary for spreading HIV and hepatitis B. Therefore, touching and petting (without ejaculation) would not be likely to pass these viruses from person to person. However, the same is NOT true for genital warts or herpes. Only contact with the lesion is needed to spread these infections. Some times you cannot always see or detect an outbreak or the lesion. Sometimes they are hidden under the penis or inside the mouth.I am not sure what you mean by fooling around, but my definition would include some contact with the genitals. If you have been doing this, then there is some risk. Even if he or she is a technical virgin, if they have been performing oral sex with other boys or girls or grinding naked, you never know what they have contracted. Some virgins have a skin to skin STD and do not even know it yet!

Many young girls want to know if it is o.k. to kiss a boy. I would say that definitely French kissing (tongue kissing) can lead to increased sexual feelings.  Sometimes, your temperature rises, you start to feel butterflies, and that could lead to actions you may regret later! Plus, you're not really sure if you're the only person he's kissing.  Do you know what kinds of things can be transmitted from person to person, just by kissing? Please see the illustrations below. Take your time.  Enjoy holding hands and accepting gifts like flowers, cards and poems. Light hugs are o.k. NO heavy petting (touching) allowed. And if you are in your late teens, a kiss on the forehead is sweet. I think whenever you let a boy kiss your hand you feel like an absolute princess! No grinding or dry humping allowed...this is when you leave your clothes on and just press hard into each other...sounds crazy!!! But this is very prevalent in the world today and it is NOT the right thing to do. Use SELF CONTROL! Get off of each other and breathe. Be patient and stay focused on your purpose!!

Is Being a Virgin Cool? 
Of course it is! You do not have to worry about catching sexually transmitted diseases, having unwanted pregnancies or harboring the confusion between love and lust. Having sex before marriage also clouds your vision and makes it hard to focus on your studies and goals in life because having sex is extremely emotional for a girl. Did you know that God designed every girl with a hymen, which is a little fold of skin on the inside of your vagina that partly closes the opening of the vagina. It is broken once a penis enters it. I pray that you do not have sex before marriage, but if you do...you may bleed the very first time and it may be quite uncomfortable. If you are a virgin...congratulations, your hymen is more than likely not broken and  you do not have any soul ties or confused sexual emotions and urges. That is a very cool thing! Note: Every time you have sex, you become ONE FLESH with every single boy you lay down with! When you are a virgin you are totally free!  -Genesis 2:24

Did you know that when you have your period, this is a time of cleansing? God designed women so that every month we flush out impurities for three to nine days. It is a discharge of blood, secretions and tissue debris from the uterus. Note: Tampons will not break your hymen. Try a smaller size first and take your time when inserting. Read the directions closely. They are easy to use and very clean. They have a plastic applicator which makes it very easy to insert. A pad, of course, is always fine but you will need to use a tampon when swimming or during gymnastic meets and pageants! Also, use the pads with wings, it makes your time of the month easier and cleaner and try not to wear white during your period. Darker pants are always best during this time.

I hate the way I look. I am sixteen years old but I have not developed yet. The other girls at my school are very developed...what is wrong with me? How will I ever get a boy if I do not have big breasts. I love Beyonce'... I want to look like her so bad!!! 
Guess what? I developed very late too. I was always a lot smaller than all the kids at my jr high and high school. My period did not come until I was almost seventeen...talk about wondering if everything is o.k.! But eventually my period did come and when I got to college, I finally started really filling out. I concentrated on my school work and was able to get all kinds of talent and scholastic scholarships for college!  Beyonce is much older than you...I remember when she first started out...she was about your age and she was not developed back then either. She was a young teen girl with a ponytail, lots of energy and a big beautiful smile. She has DEVELOPED into a beautiful young lady. You have to remember that she works very hard to maintain her body. You will develop...it's all in God's timing. So you just keep on eating all the proper foods, get an ample amount of sleep, drink water, and exercise and you too will develop into a beautiful young lady. Sometimes, we girls forget that what we DO have  is the bomb like :a beautiful smile, energy, and a fun-loving personality. There are many people who look good on the outside but their inside is so ugly...just mean-spirited ya know. Besides, God says to concentrate on the beauty that is inside of you rather than all of the outer attractions that many young girls seem to be so worried about today. Check it out in 1 Peter 3:3-5

I am fourteen and my mom will not let me wear makeup. Many of the girls at my school wear it. What is wrong with my Mom?

O.k. o.k...I hear ya! First of all, you must always honor your mother and father. You do not always have to agree with their rules but you must keep them and you MUST respect them. They know what is best for you. Your skin is very tender at age 14. Many girls are wearing the wrong kind of make-up for their skin type and they do not know how to properly apply it or wash it off. You have to be very careful when taking off the make-up as this is a lot of wear and tear on the skin. There is a whole skin care system that you should purchase just to take off your make up properly. Have you ever thought that maybe your skin is naturally beautiful so you really don't need make up. Maybe they are trying to hide something. Many young girls have low self-esteem and feel that the make-up makes them look better. Ask these young girls WHY they wear make up... you would be surprised at the answers you get. You sound very smart and confident! Ask your mom if you can at least wear a little lip shine, (NOT  THICK LIP GLASS TYPE SHINES) with a little  lip color for the summer! So keep God first in your life and keep sporting your natural glow. 
-Matthew 5:16, Proverbs 7:20, and Proverbs 31:30

There is a wonderful story in the Bible and I think this is how God still intends for it to be. A young man who was a virgin and a young lady, also a virgin, got together and married. On their wedding night, they would have sex to consummate (or to make official) the marriage. Her hymen was broken that night.  But, if something went down and her virginity was questioned, her blood stained sheets would be her proof.  She presented the sheets to her father. Her father would then hold up the sheets to the judges of the city in honor that not only had he protected her as a virgin all of her life, but that she now, indeed belonged and was ONE FLESH with her husband and was indeed a virgin when she got married. When you walk down the wedding aisle, you have your verbal marriage vows which is "I do's"  and a written agreement  which is  your marriage license, and  a BLOOD COVENANT is always a blessing as this  serves as protection, healing, cleansing, and honor for the marriage. Many marriages today do not have this particular blood covenant because some young ladies and young men choose to have sex (break the hymen) before they are married.  -Deuteronomy, 22 :13-19  Saving yourself for marriage will help you to have less confusion, less emotional stress, no STDs and no unwanted pregnancies. You may also create soul ties or strong holds if you have pre-marital sex. A sexual strong hold is when the act of sex takes over and you just cannot seem to stop having sex no matter what. It is like the act of sex has a hold on you no matter who tries to convince you to stop, you can't. Breaking a strong hold sometimes takes much prayer and counseling.


It is best to practice abstinence when you are dating AND even when you are engaged. Also know that these are your last months or year of being with God as a single person. Honor this time and enjoy your quiet time alone with God while you can.You belong to Him now, but soon your body will become your husbands. Why rush it? You have a whole marital lifetime for the enjoyment of marital sex. . Just try your best to honor Him during your days of engagement and wait for that special night....the honeymoon!
-Deuteronomy. 22:21-29, 1 Corinthians 6:15-20 and 1 Corinthians 7:5

Can a Girl Have Sex When She is On Her Period? 

A lady should try to never have sex while on her period. This is her time of cleansing, so why would you let a penis or semen enter you at a time when your body is naturaly flushing the impurities out and through the vagina? Remember, STDS including HIV/AID is easily transmitted through blood.   -Leviticus 15:16-19

Is Oral Sex Considered Real Sex? 

Young people:
All I know is, why would you want to lick on a body part of a guy where he would not lick himself? Has he ever tasted semen? If you asked a guy to do that, most likely he would find that disgusting. Oh!!! But he wants YOU to do it! Come on now! You do not know where his penis has been and where it was last. Is his penis even clean? Pre-semen (clear liquid that seeps out of the head of the penis) and semen can even lead to many sexually transmitted diseases including Gonorrhea in your throat! You may get oral herpes. Some people may have called them cold sores, but this is oral herpes. A young lady tends to have random discharge (bodily fluids) or secretion several times during each month during her ovulation cycle. So why let a boy lick on what should be landing on a panty liner! Many boys do not even know the difference between a woman's sexual discharge and pre-menstrual discharge or ovulation related discharge. Ovulation is when a girl produces eggs and they are discharged from an ovary. This will usually come fourteen days before your period and it will be a white or colorless creamy discharge that comes out of your vagina. Plus what if all of a sudden your period comes on! Oral sex IS a form of sex. It is not safer than physical intercourse as both could cause you to catch a form of Herpes. Herpes Simplex 1 (oral) or Herpes Simplex 2 (Genital) either way you can catch a possible disease! Sometimes there may even be traces of blood in the semen! Young girls, you must try to unlearn your behavior! Oral sex is LEARNED BEHAVIOR, many times introduced through pornography, X-rated TV, music or friend. That is why you must protect your eye gate and ear gate. Realize this: To be honest with you... placing a penis in a wet mouth is assimilated or false sex. A mouth is not a vagina but the feeling of a wet hole is very similar to a man. Wouldn't that be just like Satan! Once again another deception and yet many girls wake up with a disease in their throats! Oral sex is not showing natural love, it is pleasing the FLESH only! Arise young ladies...and give God the glory!  -1 Corinthians 6:18-20.  Also know that if you are a virgin and you have had oral sex, you are not a TRUE, PURE virgin. For this is not virginal or pure behavior. Your mind is in the same place as the girl who had vaginal intercourse.

 If you are performing sexual acts with another girl, you ARE NOT a virgin. That is not virginal or pure behavior. There is still some sexual end results and in God's eyes... results are results whether you lay down with a girl or a boy.Know that you may be unsure and maybe even confused sexually,but ask God to renew your mind and to give you strength to know what is right from what is wrong according to the Word of God. Ask God what He would like for your life, listen intently and then obey. It is about what God thinks and what God wants...not what you want. You have to press into what is natural and God created a man and a woman to be together so that they could get married and then procreate or have children. -Romans 1:26-27,32 and Leviticus 18:22

My Boyfriend Asked Me for Anal Sex... I Told Him, "No" ...But I Could Not Give Him a Good Answer as to Why I Did Not Want to Give It to Him That Way... Can You Help Me? 

The anus is where fecal matter (waste) is released. To place your tongue or a penis in that area is  very dangerous as there may be bacteria there.  Anal penetration can be very, very uncomfortable. Sometimes, we young ladies give up way too much.  Besides, what kind of boy would ask you to perform sex in this way? I mean why does he like the anus? Where did this request come from in the first place? Never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Remember, God created our body parts for a specific purpose. So be sure not to misuse them. 
-Leviticus 18:22

Never ever perform in one of these movies or watch them! Never compare yourself to those girls in the X-rated movies or the videos. Those girls in the adult movies or videos are paid girls and they take many breaks during the scenes. If your boyfriend or husband is watching these tapes and then asking you to perform these same acts, it would be IMPOSSIBLE. They take breaks and start over and go eat lunch etc. It's like take one, take two, take three, take twenty! The girls go through much pain when making these films. They get rips and tears in their vaginal and anal area as well as possible STD's! These films do not express love or natural techniques and positions... they exploit extreme perversion. You are grooming yourself to be a wife not a porn star! Once married, when you make love to your husband, will you be focusing on him or will you be secretly thinking about the guy in the X-rated movie? Even X-rated films can lead to an X-rated marriages. Are you allowing more of these sexually visual images to enter your eyes than keeping God's Word before your eyes? Be sure to invite God into your bedroom during your marriage.  -2 Timothy 3:4-9 and Romans 13:12-14, Matthew 6:22

Is Masturbating O.K.?

This is when you touch yourself bringing about gratification....self-gratification. You usually have to look at something sexually stimulating or fantasize about something that will sexually stimulate you. Then you vainly begin to touch and love on yourself. I do believe that is why God made Eve. Adam was not there all alone in the garden just doin' his own thing and Eve was not all by herself handling her own sexual needs. Masturbation is a perversion of God's creation of sexual intercourse. Sex is for marriage ONLY! Now don't get me wrong, God created sex and so it is a beautiful thing. But it was created for marriage.  To touch and rub on your own private parts is perversion.You have to create a lustful  thought within your mind in order to even masturbate which is not of God in itself. Masturbation is a false form of sex! Wow... look at the enemy go...a lie,deception once again! -Ephesians 5:3-19, 2 Timothy 3:1-5 Also: some women masturbate to the point that they do not even enjoy their husband's lovemaking when that time comes! Ughh...satan at work again! Remember you may end up with a sexual release or climax of sorts which is the same release as if you had performed sex with a real person...no, this it is not pure behavior.

I Do Not Have Sex... But I Am On the Pill Just in Case... What Do You Think About the Pill? 

Young, unmarried ladies...all I have to say is... if you are taking them, read the fine print on the instructions. Read all of the side effects and find out what hormones or elements your pill consists of and why. It amazes me how some girls can remember to take their pill every day, but they can't remember to read their Bible. It is your body and your choice. Ask God what is best for your life. Ask him if birth control is in His will for your life right now. Abstinence is the very best birth control ever!!!  -Proverbs 3:5-6 I do know that  the word of God says to exercise SELF CONTROL. -Galatians 5:22 Try it! Maybe you can use self control instead of  Birth Control. It is up to you. Have faith and believe that you are WORTH THE WAIT!  
I think I have oral herpes...can  you tell me about it?
Graphic Pictures are coming up very soon!

It appears that not enough is being done to inform people on the risks of contracting or spreading herpes. With the statistics showing that one in every four adults has herpes it reinforces this idea that not enough people are aware of methods to significantly reduce the spread of herpes. The statistics also show that a staggering one million new cases of herpes are discovered every year. This figure does not include the individuals that are unaware they are affected. In addition to this interesting fact is that more women tend to be herpes carriers than men.

Herpes (Herpes Simplex Virus) is usually spread by direct skin contact. It is not passed through the air but spreads via direct contact only. With herpes type 1 (HSV-1) if you have an open cold sore blister and kiss someone or even use the same eating utensils they could possible get the virus. With genital herpes, which is referred to as herpes type 2 (HSV-2), having unprotected sexual intercourse during an outbreak can spread genital herpes to your partner.

Herpes is at its most contagious during an outbreak where sores arise but it can be spread at other times as well. Although there are little or no symptoms from herpes there are some that experience itching, tingling or other sensations before any signs are shown on their skin. The treatments for herpes generally used by doctors are antiviral drugs which could include tablets or creams that may have to be applied either daily or periodically as outbreaks occur.
People may see small bumps (warts) in or around the  mouth, vagina, penis, or anus, the bumps may grow in bunches or clusters, and/or the bumps may itch.
You see, you can have cold sores on your mouth, perform oral sex on a boy and give him gental herpes.Or you could be virus free, then give a boy oral sex and come up with herpes on your mouth(oral herpes)! It just all depends on if the person is infected and you cannot always detect that. Many people do not even know they have herpes! That is why it spreading like wildfire! You never know if you are getting a hold of lips or a penis whose infection or sores just subsided and so you think everything appears to be normal and fine....but it is not!
The picture below:
She gave him oral sex but he did not tell her that he had genital herpes on his penis before she performed oral sex on him. It can get this bad. Each case is different. See below for different cases. It can be fairly mild to extreme, but I wouod not take that chance!
Herpes simplex is spread through mucous secretions. A person's first outbreak, which usually occurs two to 20 days after exposure, is called primary herpes. All subsequent outbreaks are called recurrent herpes. Recurrent herpes usually occurs in the same place as the primary lesion, because the virus has taken up residence in the affected nerve root. A primary herpes outbreak is often unnoticed.

 In rare cases, however, the primary infection may be very extreme, accompanied by fever, swollen glands and many painful sores that may last from two to six weeks.

Here is another example.
When an infected person has a herpes outbreak, the virus travels down the nerve fibers to the site of the original infection. When it reaches the skin, the typical redness and blisters occur. After the initial outbreak, subsequent outbreaks tend to be sporadic. They may occur weekly or even years apart.
Is it true that an STD can cause you to not be able to have a baby in the future?
If you contract sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea or chlamydia separately or both at the same time. And the STDs go untreated, they can eventually developed into pelvic inflammatory disease, or PID, a condition that can lead to infertility.I wonder how many sexually active teenagers and young adults are unaware that some STDs may doom their chances of having a baby later in life. It is a growing reality for nearly 2 million women in the United States who are infertile.
Can my boyfiend just pull out during sex and then I won't get pregnant? And what about if he just sticks the tip of his head in?
While having unprotected sex, the guy pulls out and ejaculates outside the woman's body. No sperm inside means no baby, right? If he inserts the head of his penis for just a little while then you should not get pregnant right? Perhaps, if not for one teeny detail. Pre-cum, or pre-ejaculate as it's also called, is the one thing many people forget about. This is the bit of fluid that releases from the man's penis before he ejaculates, and yes, it can contain sperm, and it only takes one little swimmer to reach a woman's egg in order to get her pregnant. The bottom line is this: if being a mom isn't on your current to-do list, do not rely on the pull and pray method, even if your guy can control his member's actions. Remember that he has no control over the release of pre-cum.

 Will douching, or washing right after I have sex keep me from getting an STD?

You can't prevent an STD infection by douching or washing. Douching changes the normal balance in the body by washing away the good bacteria that live in the vagina, so if you douche you might be more likely to get an STD or other infection.

How long do I need to have an STD before it shows up on a test?

It depends on the STD. Some STDs, like gonorrhea or chlamydia, may take just a few days to show up on a test. Other STDs, like HIV infection, syphilis or herpes, may take a few weeks to several months to show up on a test. This is why it's important to get regular testing for STDs. Talk to a doctor or nurse about how often you should get tested for STDs.

I had a Pap smear. Did they test me for STDs then?

Not necessarily. A Pap smear is a test that checks for signs of cancer of the cervix. Although you go through a pelvic exam to get a Pap smear done, the doctor or nurse doing your pelvic exam may not automatically do STD testing at the same time. Ask your doctor about testing for STDs. The doctor or nurse can help you figure out which STD tests are right for you by talking to you about your sexual history. Be honest with your doctor about your sexual history; it will help them determine what STD testing needs to be done.

Do some STD's have no cure? What About HIV?

Not all STDs have cures. However, some STDs can be kept under control by treatment. HPV is one of these diseases. Spread through sexual contact, HPV is actually a term for a group of about 30 different sexually transmitted viruses. These viruses can cause widespread damage, and are not currently curable. There are treatment methods to help keep the disease under control, but if unchecked, HPV can cause cervical cancer. Another incurable yet treatable STD is Herpes. Herpes is a virus spread through sexual contact that causes extremely painful open sores to appear on both male and female genitalia or mouth. The virus can stay in the body for your entire life, but breakouts can be minimal when treated.
The virus that stands alone among STDs is the HIV virus. HIV is the virus that causes the devastating, and in most cases fatal disease, AIDS. At this point in time there is no cure for the HIV virus.  You can get HIV if you do any of the following: have sex with someone who has HIV (it can be spread by having vaginal, anal, or oral sex), and/or share needles with someone who has HIV. Be aware that: A mother who has HIV can pass it on to her baby before the baby is born, during childbirth, or through her breast milk. If you have any other STD, it could be easier for you to get infected with HIV. The best and most reliable way to find out if you have contracted this virus is through getting tested.
My friend caught Hepatitus after getting a Tattoo? HOW?
Hepatitis B is an infection of the liver, and you can get it if you: have sex with someone who has the virus, share needles or drugs, share earrings, razors, nail clippers, or toothbrushes, pierce your body or get a tattoo when infected tools are used, or touch infected blood or bodily fluids. People can have hepatitis B without knowing it. They may feel fine. Or they may just feel like they have the flu. Even if you have no signs, hepatitis B can be spread to others. Some people do have symptoms such as: body pain, yellow skin or eyes, no appetite, feeling tired, brown or dark urine, and light or gray stools.
Is it O.K. For My Boyfriend to Finger Me?

No, because this is not pure behavior! Please understand that your vagina is precious! Plus, the bacteria from his finger or the dirt under his nail could give you an infection. If he goes up high enough, he could also break your hymen with his finger! If you have herpes and he inserts his finger, he could catch herpes on his finger! Or give you herpes with his infected finger! Here is an example of herpes on someone's finger! The finger is actually a common place to get a herpes infection, common enough to have its own name - herpetic whitlow.

About Me:
Remember, I do not have all the answers, but I am intimately connected to the ONE who does know all things...Jesus Christ! So keep searching the scriptures for yourself and study the Word of God. Place His Word deep down in your heart, and spend as much time with God as you can. This will help you to become a Godly young woman. Just so you know, God usually speaks to me through his Word right while I am reading it! Or when I am simply quiet, waiting on Him. He's cool like that.  -Psalm 119 

 "Sometimes it feels like we've failed God so badly that He'll never forgive us. But God tells us that His mercy is much bigger than our worst mistakes...His mercy endures forever!
A Special Note:
If you have already had sex ...repent and ask God to forgive you and do your best to stop having sex which is sin and is always unpleasing to God. Then be sure to forgive yourself!
Remember it is not about what I think, but about what God thinks of you and you want to be in right standing with God.You want Him to be pleased with you as a Godly and Holy young lady who represents Him. Simply examine your life and be honest with
yourself and make a diligent effort to really make a positive change towards really doing the right thing...God loves you and so do I!
You can purchase your Purity Ring today and make your Purity Pledge to not have sex until marriage!
Second Chance Virgin: A girl who has  already fallen and wants to no longer have sex but live pure! Because our God is a God of a second chance!
But, It is always best to be a PURE virgin.
2 Great Scriptures to Stand on for Forgiveness!
Who is a God like you, who pardons sins and forgives the transgressions of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight in showing mercy. (Micah 7:18-19)
Save me, O God, for the waters have come up to my neck. I sink in the miry depths, where there is no foothold. ... You have seen my folly, O God; my guilt is not hidden from you. ... Rescue me from the mire, do not let me sink(Psalm 69:1-14) 


He is a God of a Second Chance!
God's heart is full of love!
God IS love!
God's Forgiveness
   Other passages to read and study
  • Psalm 51:1-17
    prayer for forgiveness
  • Psalm 103:12
    sins taken far, far away
  • Pslam 136
    lasting love guaranteed
  • Isaiah1:18
    all cleaned up
  • Isaiah 43:25
    sins forgiven-and forgotten
  • Jeremiah 50:20
  • guilty no more
  • John 8:1-11
    forgiveness in action
  • Ephesians 1:7
    the riches of God's grace
  • Colossians 2:13-14
    sins canceled
  • 1 John 1:9
    promise of forgiveness
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