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THE BEST WRITTEN STUDY ON THE 4 TYPES OF LOVE
Agape, Phileo, Storge and Eros
There are four Greek words for love that are important for Christians to understand
Marriage & Love Relationship: A Complete Marriage.
There are four types of love that MUST be present at the same time in any marriage and love relationship to make a complete marriage. When ANY of these loves are missing, it leaves a gapping hole in the relationship. (Strive to keep these four types of love active in your marriage. It will keep it secure!) Copyright 1992-2008 by Stephen Gola All Rights Reserved
THE BEST MARITAL LIFE INTERVIEW
Tamia and Grant Hill
THE PHATTEST SPOKEN WORD FEMALE EVER!
SHE'S VERY RAW BUT REAL...her testimony in her on words!
For all women who are having sex BEFORE marriage...watch this video!
Introducing Dana Gailmore
Warning!!! Parental discretion adviced due to graphic language
(1915-2003) is one of most prominent Bible teachers of the 20th century.
Book Description
If you are single, probably your primary question is how you will find your God-appointed mate. Could you believe that God himself put this in your heart? Choosing your mate is the most important decision you will ever make, after salvation itself. This book can help you avoid heartbreak and failure. It contains practical, down-to-earth directions that will help you find God's plan, including preparing yourself for marriage, following God's teaching, and the role of parents and pastors.Derek Prince relates how God led him into marriage - first with Lydia; then after Lydia's death, with Ruth.Read the link below to experience the essence of this powerful book!
THE BEST PROPOSALS EVER!
Here is a sweet proposal by a young man at a church concert right from the pulpit!
Click on the link above
THE BEST SPOKEN WORD MALE EVER!
He is incredible concerning love...just listen!
Introducing...Shihan!
THE BEST HOLLYWOOD PROJECT FROM
A CHRISTIAN, MARRIED COUPLE
Denzel and Paulette- Reading the love story of Song of Songs in
The Bible Experience -Audiobook
THE BEST WEDDING PROPOSAL VIDEO/
PHOTOGRAPHY EVER!
Here is an amazing wedding proposal, they call it "Proposal at the Ritz"…be sure to turn your speakers up as the music is phenomenal!
According to Essence.com, when Robert Gray was asked why he went to so much trouble to propose, he said, "It was truly a vision from God." See the news story below for the full scoop!
THE BEST ROMANTIC NEWS STORY EVER!
THE BEST ROMANTIC MARRIAGE MOVIE EVER!
MEN...GET YOUR ROMANCE TIPS ON!
Go rent or purchase today!
THE BEST FIGHTING FOR MARRIAGE MOVIE!
Have a marriage worth rescuing...rent this movie!
click on the teaser trailer below!
THE BEST WOMAN IN WAITING MOVIE EVER!
Queen Esther!
watch the trailer below
THE BEST FAIRY TALE WEDDING VIDEOS EVER!
Bishop T.D. Jakes's daughter, Sarah
Rachel Hockett Brian and Rachel Hockett Wedding Day
THE BEST MARRIED COUPLE EVER!
Barack had just turned 32 and Michelle was 28 when they married
Married for 17 years this coming October!
In a book about Michelle Obama enititled Michelle by Liza Mundy it says:
"Her brother Craig, often talks about how picky Michelle was about her boyfriends. Craig assumed that Barack would quickly join the ranks of cast-off suitors. Craig said Barack was not cast off due to the fact that he was a smart guy who didn't act like he was smarter than anybody else. That was the first thing.And he was tall and he knew how to manage my sister's personality."
Michelle is quoted from the book:
"If he cares half as much about this country as he does about his own children, we're going to be just fine," she told a crowd in Butte, Montana.
"If I, as tough and demanding as I am, can identify and put up with his flaws, so can you."
Barack married Michelle three years after they dated. In a nice restaurant in Chicago, instead of dessert, the plate had a box on it and in the box was an engagement ring. She doesn't remember the dessert that she ordered or if she even ate it!
When asked about what made her fall in love with him she replied "for the same reason many other people respect him; his connection with people."
Even though her husband is the center of attention, Michelle has zero concerns about fidelity in their marriage. She told Ebony magazine in March 2006, "I never worry about things I can't affect, and with fidelity . . . that is between Barack and me, and if somebody can come between us, we didn't have much to begin with." Source: blackamerican.com
MICHELLE OBAMA: THE MOM & WIFE
After Barack was elected to the U.S. Senate, Barack and Michelle choose to keep their children in Chicago, where Michelle continued her career as well. "We made a good decision to stay in Chicago so that has kept our family stable," Michelle Obama told the Chicago Tribune. Every Sunday the family attends services at the Trinity United Church of Christ.
According to reports, Michelle has mastered being a mother, career woman and the wife of a politician. When Newsweek magazine trailed her in 2004, the reporter could not help but notice a to-do list for her two daughters Malia and Natasha that included time for "play." She is in bed most nights by 9:30 and rises each morning at 4:30 to run on a treadmill. This level of discipline and organization helps her manage her public and private pressures with poise. In New Yorker magazine Michelle noted that the life of a political wife is "hard and that's why Barack is such a grateful man."
But there's more to it. "Barack didn't pledge riches" Michelle explains to Newsweek. "Only a life that would be interesting. On that promise he's delivered."
After Barack was elected to the U.S. Senate, Barack and Michelle choose to keep their children in Chicago, where Michelle continued her career as well. "We made a good decision to stay in Chicago so that has kept our family stable," Michelle Obama told the Chicago Tribune. Every Sunday the family attends services at the Trinity United Church of Christ.
According to reports, Michelle has mastered being a mother, career woman and the wife of a politician. When Newsweek magazine trailed her in 2004, the reporter could not help but notice a to-do list for her two daughters Malia and Natasha that included time for "play." She is in bed most nights by 9:30 and rises each morning at 4:30 to run on a treadmill. This level of discipline and organization helps her manage her public and private pressures with poise. In New Yorker magazine Michelle noted that the life of a political wife is "hard and that's why Barack is such a grateful man."
But there's more to it. "Barack didn't pledge riches" Michelle explains to Newsweek. "Only a life that would be interesting. On that promise he's delivered."
Source: blackamerican.com
THE BEST LOVE LETTERS EVER!
all material copyright from The Esate of Martin King Jr.
Coretta was never satisfied in being away from me, but she could not always be with me because she had to stay home with our four rather young children. She did join me on some occasions, and she was always a deep consolation to me, supporting my every move. I didn't have the problem of having a wife who was afraid and trying to run from the situation. And that was a great help in all of the difficulties that I confronted.
LETTER TO CORETTA
Darling, I miss you so much. In fact, much too much for my own good. I never realized that you were such an intimate part of my life. My life without you is like a year without a spring time which comes to give illumination and heat to the atmosphere saturated by the dark cold breeze of winter. . . . O excuse me, my darling. I didn't mean to go off on such a poetical and romantic flight. But how else can we express the deep emotions of life other than in poetry? Isn't love too ineffable to be grasped by the cold calculating hands of intellect?
By the way (to turn to something more intellectual) I have just completed Bellamy's Looking Backward. - It was both stimulating and fascinating. There can be no doubt about it. Bellamy had the insight of a social prophet as well as the fact finding mind of the social scientist. I welcomed the book because much of its content is in line with my basic ideas. I imagine you already know that I am much more socialistic in my economic theory than capitalistic. And yet I am not so opposed to capitalism that I have failed to see its relative merits. It started out with a noble and high motive, viz., to block the trade monopolies of nobles, but like most human systems it fell victim to the very thing it was revolting against. So today capitalism has out-lived its usefulness. It has brought about a system that takes necessities from the masses to give luxuries to the classes. So I think Bellamy is right in seeing the gradual decline of capitalism.
I think you noticed that Bellamy emphasized that the change would be evolutionary rather than revolutionary. This, it seems to me, is the most sane and ethical way for social change to take place.
Eternally Yours,
Martin
Atlanta, July 18, 1952
LETTER TO CORETTA
July 23, 1954
Boston
Darling,
How goes everything? I received your special and naturally I was overjoyed to hear from you. I was happy to know that the Women's Day went over in a big way. Your analysis of Gardner's sermon was very good. I see you are a very keen observer.
I am doing quite well, and studying hard as usual. I have plenty of privacy here and nobody to bother me.
All of your friends that I have seen are doing fine. Everybody asks about you,
We had our Philosophy Club Monday night and it was well attended. Brother Satterwhite did the paper.
How are all of the folks?
I will be arriving in Atlanta by plane at 1:25 A.M. Friday night or rather Saturday morning. You all be sure to meet me at the airport. We will leave for Montgomery sometime, Saturday morning, that is, if you can go.
Give everybody my regards and let me hear from you soon. Let me know how you are doing.
Be sweet and I will see you soon.
Your Darling,
Martin
THE BEST FINDING A WIFE STORY!
Martin was 24 yrs. and Coretta was 25 yrs. when they married
They dated for a year!
It was in Boston that I met and fell in love with the attractive singer Coretta Scott, whose gentle manner and air of repose did not disguise her lively spirit. I had met quite a few girls in Boston, but none that I was particularly fond of.
I was about to get cynical. So I asked Mary Powell, a friend from Atlanta who was also a student at the New England Conservatory of Music, "Do you know any nice, attractive young ladies?"Mary Powell introduced us and I was fortunate enough to get Coretta's telephone number. We met over the telephone: "This is M. L. King, Jr. A mutual friend of ours told me about you and gave me your telephone number. She said some very wonderful things about you, and I'd like very much to meet you and talk to you."
We talked awhile. "You know every Napoleon has his Waterloo. I'm like Napoleon. I'm at my Waterloo, and I'm on my knees. I'dlike to meet you and talk some more. Perhaps we could have lunch tomorrow or something like that. "She agreed to see me. "I'll come over and pick you up. I have a green Chevy that usually takes ten minutes to make the trip from B.U., but tomorrow I'll do it in seven."
She talked about things other than music. I never will forget, the first discussion we had was about the question of racial and economic injustice and the question of peace. She had been actively engaged in movements dealing with these problems. After an hour, my mind was made up. I said, "So you can do something else besides sing? You've got a good mind also. You have everything I ever wanted in a woman. We ought to get married someday."
I didn't want a wife I couldn't communicate with. I had to have a wife who would be as dedicated as I was. I wish I could say that I led her down this path, but I must say we went down it together because she was as actively involved and concerned when we met as she is now.I told my mother, "Coretta is going to be my wife." On June 18, 1953, we were married. Although we had returned to Marion to be married by my father on the Scotts' spacious lawn, it was in Boston that we began our married life together.
How Martin and Coretta Met:
A friend, Mary Powell, introduced them in 1/1952 in Boston on the phone.
Coretta, about meeting Martin: "...he was looking for a wife. I wasn't looking for a husband, but he was a wonderful human being...I still resisted his overtures, but after he persisted, I had to pray about it...I had a dream, and in that dream, I was made to feel that I should allow myself to be open and stop fighting the relationship. That's what I did, and of course the rest is history. "
Source: US Liberals
Source: US Liberals
BEST HOLLYWOOD MARRIED COUPLE!
They have been married for 12 years!
Hear romantic excerpts from the book read By Courtney and Angela
Courtney reads below:
Excerpt From Tavis Smiley's Interview on PBS:
Bassett: Well, it was interesting. You know, like I say, he was in a relationship for a long time. Maybe I was in various different relationships. You know, I just never looked at him with those eyes. But then one day, he did something and I saw him in a different light and the attraction grew. It wasn't as if I had an attraction, but I didn't touch on it. We did go on one forgettable date.
Tavis: Forgettable (laughter).
Bassett: Yeah.
Vance: Which neither one of us can remember the date at all. That's how forgettable it was.
Bassett: Less than memorable date. Where? What? And then I was off to do a movie or two and life. But then I came around again and, in a moment, it was as if my eyes opened and I saw straight through past the physicality to his heart.
Vance: And I did the same thing with her. That's why we, within a week, were able to know that - I knew she was the one.
ENGAGEMENT RING ADVICE FOR GUYS!
Do you know the four C's?
watch the video below
Cee Cee's MARRIAGE RULES!
The top 26
1. Don't ever give a boyfriend, WIFE privileges. He's sleeping in your bed, eating your food, driving your car,has a key to your place and you are NOT married. Lord, help us to hold out! You see, you are helping him to meet his sexual needs, but you are not a helpmeet at all...you have no ring, no vows, no commitment, no marriage license to be a wife(help meet)(Genesis 2:18-20.)Do not be silly, weak-willed women who let men creep into your home and your life. There will be perilous times ahead and people are about to be real trifling. (2 Timothy 3:1-7) You must realize your worth, your value and know that you are worth the wait!How much sex and other pleasures of this world do you want? Some of you have given so much to your lover that you have given up your mind, your body and even your soul!
2. Concerning adultery. Fornication is a very close sister to adultery so do not be terribly surprised if both of you agreed to have sex BEFORE your marriage and then one, if not both of you enter into adulterous affairs during your marriage. Lust was your problem from the very beginning of your relationship. Abstinence is the key! Also I have found that if the both of you can have enough to faith to NOT have sex before you get married, then you will usually have enough faith during your marriage to NOT have sex outside of your marriage. Remember that forgiveness is a beautiful thing! (Galations 6:-1-5)When you step outside,the trust goes out of the window, so you will have to work on rebuilding that trust. That will take time and patience with one another.
3. Concerning fornication. Funny how if you sin together (such as sex/fornication during your engagement or when you are "dating") then you think it's o.k. But,once married, if one of the spouses decides to sin without his/her spouse (adultery-cheating outside of the marriage) then it's grounds for divorce. Sin is sin! So please check yourself BEFORE you run to that divorce lawyer. How can you point a finger or throw a stone at your spouse, when you entered into your marriage in sin in the first place. Some couples had sex many nights and even the night BEFORE their wedding day. Open your eyes...you walked into your marrige in sin! Check yourself. Check your own hands and heart. Are your hands clean? Is your heart pure? (Psalm 24:4-5) Have you repented lately? And when you do repent remember to turn AWAY from that sin and sin no more!
4. Know that if you travel a great deal, or you are always gone on a job assignment and there is not enough communication and understanding...for some reason,this kind of marriage sometimes is a great breeding ground for cheating. Please discuss the amount of time and distance you will be away from your spouse BEFORE you get married. Did you know in the Bible, it says that a man should not take on any major business or go to war for the first year of marriage! But to be there to please his wife! (Deuteronomy 24:5) See if she can travel with you. Does she even like to travel? How dedicated and commited to God was she with her self control before she married you and vice versa. Do you have a wandering eye and a lust for women in general? Are you a very dedicated family man? Are you romantic with her? What state and in what manner do you leave her in when you go away? Will you call and check on her? Do you linger past your time of planned arrival to be back home and why? Does she understand and agree with your total vision and see the big picture of why you must be away for your work or endeavors? Do your ambitions line up at all?These are issues that must be discussed BEFORE the marriage, if possible.
5. Wives, please turn a light on. Candlelight is great or a little mellow lighting from a small lamp. A man is very visual and deserves to see his beautiful wife. Take off your under garments especially your bra. Why you ask? In Proverbs 5:19 it says for the husband to be captivated by his wife and to ravage the breasts of his wife...always! Also read Song of Solomon's and 7:7 and 8:10. Real men should like and desire the breasts of a woman. Note: young girls please stop flashing your breasts for random guys...this is not cute! Your breasts should be carressed by your husband when you get married! They are a beautiful part of your holy temple, not a body part used to be flashed about all over the city to entice or excite guys.
6. Parents, it's o.k. to have a say or help in your child's spouse choice. Start praying now for the God-sent, God-ordained husband or wife of your child while they are still young! Get involved as a parent...even if it is providing great reading material. See the story of Abraham and how he sought ought a wife for his son, Isaac. Naomi helped her daughter-in-law, Ruth to lock in Boaz and Isaac instructed and commanded his son, Jacob on where to find his wife. It this day and age of fast paced, heavy traffic, too busy to network after a hard days work, young unmarried people could use the help of their parents to encourage them in discerning a proper mate. If you do not have a father or mother...maybe you can get some prayer and assistance from a father figure or Christian mentor. Unmarried folks, it is also good to watch and be encouraged by other happy and successful Christian married couples. Especially those that have been married a long time!
7. Unmarried men and women...look your best. Change into some nice colors and sweet smelling scents. Do not be sad because you are unmarried! This is what Ruth did as instructed by her mother-in-law, Naomi. (Ruth 3:1-6)Actively wait!
8. Ladies, soak in your tubs and lavish yourself with lotions and oils. Pamper yourself.This is what Esther did for a whole year and she got her king! She also prepared two feasts once she was married to gain great influence with him! Can you cook ladies? Side note: Esther was a poor orphan girl being taken care of by her cousin. But look how God blessed her! He will bless you too! Read the entire book of Esther, it's only a few pages.
9. Eve was created and presented to Adam by God and when he awoke he FOUND her to be perfect as his very own wife. He did not scoff at her or ask God to give him a few more choices. No! He exclaimed, "bone of my bone...flesh of my flesh!" (Genesis 2:23) So sometimes men, your wife could be right in front of you! Stop calling her just a friend and FIND her to be your wife! Make the commitment...call her what she really is, I know you can feel it deep in your heart! Adam opened his mouth and made a declaration and TOLD Eve what she shall be to him. He did not have pre-marital sex, he did not date her, he did not take her through a bunch unnecessary changes...he knew! He woke up from his sleep and recognized her immediately...he didn't play dumb. And even when they both jacked up the Holy rules in the garden...he did not divorce her. Men, make sure you have a pastoral covering and/or Christian male mentor...someone you can be accountable to. Is there anyone who is watching over the choices you make?You have to have accountability. A good book: Demitri C. Kornegay
10. The Bible mentions "the wife and bridegroom of your youth" several times (see Proverbs 5:18)...so it is o.k. to get married earlier that later. You will be able to enjoy the benefits of having babies and having the energy of youth during marriage. Not just the growing old together part! For the bible's first order to Eve, the first wife of all time: "to be fruitful and multiple. Increase in number, fill the earth and subdue it. (Subdue meaning: to influence the earth with God's Holy values, to conquer the earth with children of God going forth representing Him to build families that will take over this Earth with God's principle and precepts.)(Genesis 1:28)Men...marriage is a mindset. You have to get yourself into the position of wanting to be a husband. A lightbulb has to go off. You have to realize that marriage is a great thing! Know that you really should be married by 35 years old. I mean if you are 40-50 years and NEVER been married...it should be easy to get married at this age! You have partied hard and enjoyed bachelorhood which may have included occasional booty calls and excellent drive-thru and take out meals for years! Or maybe, you still live with mom and love her cooking and have no marital plans what so ever. Please consider getting married. It is a mindset! So get up and get going. Get the training and understanding that you need and then begin your search! A complete family unit is what we need right now, not just child support checks and occasional visits. Really fix your mind and your heart and let God lead the way.
11. A man must work and provide for his wife and children and pay his bills for in the Bible it says, "If a man is not willing to work, then that man does not get to eat!" (2 Thessolonians 3:10) The Bible says, "that a man who does not provide for his own house then you are worse than an infidel (which is a non believer,one who refuses to believe in the living God). (1 Timothy 5:8) Adam's punishment in the garden was to work all the days of his life and earn his keep(be able to eat food) by the sweat of his brow. (Genesis 3:17) So men please develop the concept that you must always keep money flowing or ideas and witty inventions in your back pocket so that you can provide. Go read about how long Jacob worked just to get Rachel. Do not let pride get in the way. To work at a fast food restaurant, cleaning buildings or even washing cars is HONORABLE when you have a wife and children to provide for.
12. Wives, it is o.k. to dance for your husband, for this is one of the ways that the virgin Shulammite woman procured Solomon's affection. She was his favorite...remember? (Song of Solomon 6:13-7:6.) It was a type of victory dance of love and peace. So get your vistory dance ready for your husband. It is an honor to be a wife! God entrusted you with one of his very own sons. See more great things you can do for your husband in my new book...THE BEST WIFE EVER.
Watch this excellent video on when a spouse feels like they are "out of love!"
13. Wives, remember you are a helper! So you will help meet MANY needs of your husband. That is your purpose. So I know he may not be perfect now, but maybe you can help meet those particular need in his life. If he came to you totally perfect and in need of nothing, then what would he want or need you for? Think on these things ladies. Remember that you must be a "suitable" helper for your particular husband to be. (Genesis 2:18.) Are you in the position to be a wife yet? Who are you suitable for? What makes you suitable...have you ever thought about that? A nice body, long hair and good pre-marital sex is not the answer. Do you know how to pray? A wife MUST be a woman of prayer. No prayer= no power! Check your fruit! How many fruits of the spirit do you have? There are nine of them! (Galatians 5:22) Check your fruit, then check your husband to be's fruit as well. Pay attention to his character. And what about your character? Character is doing the right thing even when no one is looking!
14. Men,it's o.k. to give nice jewelry and precious gifts to your wife or wife to be! Check out what Abraham, Isaacs's father, provided for Rebekah. (Genesis 24:22) Or what Solomon gave to his love (Song of Solomon 1:8-12!)Learn your wife's love language...what makes her tick. What makes her smile? Does she like your: words, gifts, service, time or touch?
15. Get in shape! Read the beauty description of the virgin and how sculpted Solomon was in the Bible. (Song of Solomon 5:11-16) It talks of his legs and even his booty! Ha Ha! God is sooooo good! She is described in Song of Solomon 7:1-9. The body is the Holy Temple so don't over eat and be sure to exercise! Remember that gluttony is a sin too! You can be large, and strong (women)even husky as a man but you must be healthy! You have got to love yourself in this area. How can you love someone else if you really do not love yourself? Obesity and bad health is killing people and destroying relationships every day! (Proverbs 23:20, Proverbs 28:7) Ladies...get a healthly diet and exercise lifestyle planned, implemented and carried out for yourself BEFORE you get married. Men...do the same! I never let myself get over a certain size. That is my personal rule! I will share with you some cooking, healthy food and beauty tips to get you in shape and real cute for marriage. See my PDF coming soon...GETTING IN SHAPE FOR THE WHITE DRESS AND BEYOND!
16. Never marry a man just for his money. Always remember that God is your source and he provides all of your needs according to his riches in glory. I mean... who were you leaning on financially BEFORE you got married! Check yourself before you wreck your marriage ladies. A Godly husband must provide, but always remember where all the money comes from and who has been and always will be your number one provider, Be sure to give back and honor God with your monies. (Read about money, giving and sowing in the Bible.) Both the man and woman should give back to God in funds, time, talent and service. Men, never leave your wife because of a lack of funds. Pray to God for financial ideas, witty inventions and favor! (Deuteronomy 8:18, Luke 12:24, Luke 6:38, 2 Corinthians 9:6-8)
Remember that love always GIVES, love does not take! God gave His only begotten son for us! Always check a person's levels: level of character, level of integrity, level of commitment, level of responsibility, level of communication, level of marital maturity, level of giving, level of discipline and level of self-control when discerning a person's spirit. Beauty will fade. Money and treasures can vanish in no time!
17. Wives, never place your children above your husband! Never marry a man just so you can have a child. This is selfish believe it or not. Never make it so you love on your child more than you love on your husband. Try not to give so much attention to the new baby that you forget about the beautiful husband that helped you to create the baby! Try to find balance in it all. Remember that all children are created by God, so it's a good idea to dedicate the baby back to God(baby christening). This will publicly seal your protection for the child and remind you of the great responsiblity that you now have as parents. He entrusted you and your husband with a human life. A child is always better with a mother and a father. There is a great balance in this equation. It took two to make a baby, I think it should be two that raises the child. A complete family unit is awesome!
18. Unmarried men, if you would like God to bless you a little more or hook you up with more money or your dream job, etc., you might want to go ahead and get married (with God's timing and permission of course) as a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains FAVOR! (Proverbs 18:22) Your favor may be a little blocked because you have not married yet! Don't hate boo...this is all Bible baby! Propose to that special lady soon! Do your thing! Make the commitment. Make sure you are mature enough for the lady that you are marrying. Be a man...not a boy. Are you still making childish mistakes and childish choices? At some point, it will be time to put away childish things! (1Corinthians 13:11) Many men will not be able to fully accomplish their vision in life WITHOUT a wife, for she was designed to be his helper.A wife can, in many ways, complement you. For even God said, "it is not good for man to be alone." God is talking about a wife not a steady "girlfriend", a one night stand or a live-in lover crawlin' up in your bed so you will have some company for the night!
Read how Creflo met Taffi below.
19. Men, you do not necessarily have to go hunting all over the city to find a wife. Simply pray and ask God and He will hear and answer your call for even He said it from the beginning that " it is not good for the man to be alone." (Genesis 2:18) And don't go hanging out and having sex with every woman in town...test driving her as if she is a car! It's not that hard to find a wife if you are REALLY looking and desire it in your heart. If you have been seeking the Lord with all your heart first and foremost up until this point...then He's got to give it to you! (Matthew 6:33) Stop clubbing and hanging out where you usually find trouble and stay inside for a minute and spend time with God in some serious study and prayer. Private prayer = Public power!
20. Married couples, try not to fight in your house. Go out in public and have a talk or go for a walk but do not stir up that type of anger in the atmosphere of your home. Never go to sleep in anger! (Ephesians 4:26)Resolve all issues before you go to bed. The saddest thing is to be married and yet still be alone! A woman can be living, yet be dead. Sometimes a husband's body is in the bed but his heart is up on the roof! (Proverbs 25:24.)
21. Do not be unequally yoked. Only God can change a person. If you are not married yet, try not to marry a person with the hopes of changing or making them more Godly. You know when you are not really compatible. Just getting saved yesterday is far from someone who has been saved for twenty years...come on now. You have fifteen worn-out, marked and highlighted bibles and he is asking you where he can find a bible book store and has never even heard of the word concordance before. He is trying to find milk and you have been eating meat for ten years! So please do encourage, teach and help him to grow...but be real with yourself. It is better to marry a God fearing man/woman from the beginning who knows,loves and lives by the Word and has a full understanding of the importance of God's will. Make sure they love the Lord more than anyone...even you! Be careful if on Sunday morning...sex, football, x-box, smoking weed, using drugs and general laziness is more important than going to church. Be very careful if they have a general hatred and hurtful misunderstanding for church. If he is still trying to get his life together spiritually, then encourage him to do so and maybe offer him some great Christian books and find a male Christian mentor for him. But to marry a man who does not know and live by the Word God is practically insane. The Godly person usually compromises. The negative usually pulls down the positive. (2 Corinthians 6:14-17) If you do not have a personal relationship with the Lord, cry out to Him and accept Him into your heart today! Then begin to study the word of God and He will advance you quickly. Some people who have been studying the bible for two years have more knowledge than folks who have been saved for twentyyears! God can do anything! Invite God into your life, as He is a perfect gentlemen and would never force himself upon you. You have to be willing to put in the work. (Romans 10: 9-13)
Watch this compelling video about being unequally yoked...esp. if you are not yet married and courting an unbeliever...with the hopes of getting married and they will change!
If you are already married and one of you is saved and the
other spouse is an unbeliever..watch this.
21. Do not have sex before marriage! (1Corinthians 6:18-20) Even Ruth in her hopes to woo Boaz laid at Boaz's feet, she did not go to his room and have sex with him! I guess she could have, but that was not her intention at all. And Boaz did not ask her for sex, he told her to go to sleep.(Ruth 3:5-10) Check yourself ladies and use self-control. Some of you ladies are really aggressive these days and are pouncing on your male suitor/husband- to- be like a wild cat. Maybe he respects you! So have some respect for yourself. I tell you what... if you can't respect yourself, at least repect the God and the Word of God that is living on the inside of Him. Boaz did not even wait a day, he wanted to settle matters on marrying Ruth that very next day! A man goes after what he really wants... his mind will not rest! (Ruth 3:18-4:12)
22. Concerning pre-marital sex. Did you know that for every person you have sex with BEFORE you get married, you have already become "ONE FLESH" with each one of those people. (1Corinthians 6:15-17) So many times, if you are praying for your husband or wife you must spiritually divorce and expel all the old lovers as there is really no room for your real husband or wife! Even if you did get married you may dream about, constantly remember or may even slip and call or fall with an old lover. There's unwanted pregnancies and STDS/HIV/AIDS, etc.! Satan will use your old lovers, the memories and all that came with it, against you even while you are happily married. The enemy does not know your future but he will take your past and wear you out! It's the memories that rewind and play in your mind that practically haunt you!Your imagination can sometimes run wild. Try to cast down all those imaginations and pull down all the strongholds in your mind. The battlefield is in the mind! (2 Corinthians 10:3-5)Denounce old lovers and all items that are associated with those lovers and get ready for the REAL thing! Ask God to give you peace beyond all or your natural understanding! So you can have some final closure and peace about all of your old sexual acts and drama. You must go into a marriage with the peace of God! Read my book, THE ABSTINENCE GUIDE for more help on ending pre-marital sex.
22. Stop marrying people for looks only. Looks and physical attraction are important. But God looks at the heart of a person! So pay close attention to the heart,his or her nature and actions. (I Samuel 16:7) Always remember that you marry a person's nature! So stop looking at her breasts or his torso and check out his or her heart. If he cheats on his taxes, he may cheat on you! If she lies to her own mother,she may lie to you! See the forest people! Don't let the trees get in your way. Pre-marital sex always tends to fog up everything and block you from seeing the red flags!See my book section for my new book...THE RED FLAG. Many times you focus on how good the sex was and forget to seriously check a person's spirit, heart and motives. Before you know it, you are married and sleeping in the same bed with the enemy chile!
23. A husband should have the ear of God. An honest connection with the heart of God. He should know how to pray for you and with you. His prayers must be effectual(able to produce a desired effect) and fervent(exhibiting great intensity of feeling) and he must be righteous(in accordance with God's laws, morally right).(James 5:16) (See David in Psalm 86)His prayers should not be selfish but sincere. God does not honor selfish prayers. (Proverbs 28:9) He must fear the Lord for that is the beginning for wisdom. (Proverbs 9:10) You want a man that is wise. Sometimes, a man that does not fear the Lord will have no fear of losing his marriage or children. Check to see if he cares about when he hurts God's feelings. If he really cares about what God thinks about him. If he cares about hurting God's feelings then he will usually care about your feelings. Does he care about God's will? Make sure his will lines up with God's will, not just want he wants or you want. See if he will pray out loud. It is very good once you get married to set asaide times to pray together and pray out loud. A man must have a confident prayer and pray in faith. (Hebrew 11:1). But faith comes by hearing the Word of God. So does he read and the Bible regularly and meditate on God's word? Does he ever call you with an exciting revelation from reading God's word? Does he have a bible? Where is his bible? Has he ever read the bible with you? Does he go to church regulary? Does he have Christian male friends that encourage him to be closer to God and not pull him away from God?A man should not be afraid or ashamed of how he prays. He must lead and set the guidelines for the home. He must help the wife to train up the children. (Ephesians 6:4) A school teaches, but parents TRAIN!Check out my new book...THE BEST DAD EVER and ETIQUETTE FOR BLACK TEENS.
23. "A man makes time for what he really wants to make time for!" You should not have to help him to date you or suggest that he spend time with you! Move on...he is not diggin' you boo..and that is o.k.! For those men who are diggin someone, check out my new book...THE ART OF THE LITTLE THINGS.
24. Wives, never put your husband on front street. Men do not like women who they cannot share their secrets with. They do not like women who run their mouth too much! Be discreet.Your husband should be able to be vunerable and open with you, this builds trust in a marriage. Do not share your personal marital business with your girlfriends! Many girlfriends have jacked up many marriages! The crazy part is that sometimes they listen to your hurt and all the while are plotting to get him next! It's a perfect set up for you have told her all about his ins and outs-what makes him tick "so to speak". She pretty much knows just as much about your husband as you do! Go to God in prayer always. Then you may have to seek professional help or biblical counseling, but venting over the phone about your husband's issue is NOT the way to go! A beautiful woman who has no discretion is like a ring in a pig's nose! (Proverbs 11:22) A nagging woman is like a steady drip of rain or a leaky faucet and sometimes it is harder to catch the wind than to stop a nagging wife! (Proverbs 27:15-16)Wives seek answers from God. Get counseling for your issues. STOP and really LISTEN to each other in love. Tell the truth in love(with grace and tact) (Ephesians 4:14-16) and then give it to God. Be sure to encourage your man during the down times. Speak life into him! If the problem persist, seek professional or pastoral help.
25. Find out and communicate as much as you can as about as many things as you can BEFORE you get married. Tell as many secrets as you can muster yourself to tell your future spouse. Many things that are done in secret will come to the surface, especially during your marriage. (Ephesians 5:8-11) Expose all religious fears, hidden abortions, hidden children that you do not claim, sexual abuse, molestation, rape, sexual identity crisis or confusion, fettishes, extremities, unusual habits, addictions, incest, murder, jail time, warrants, medical issues, health problems, medications, unpaid debts, hidden monies, drug use, drinking problems,(Ephensians 5:18) military experiences and any and all kinds of past and present hidden, traumatic or "what you consider to be" shameful experiences . Get the help you need NOW, not later. Please do not use a marriage partner to see if they can LOVE you through your problems! Don't sweep it under the rug...clean your house! Shame, guilt and hidden agendas can sometimes kill a marriage! Do not go untreated. Get all the prayer, counseling, support groups and therapy that your need BEFORE you get married! For a great start, check out my two books...THE RELATIONSHIP GAME FOR HIM and THE RELATIONSHIP GAME FOR HER in by book section. Even if you if you have thoughts of suicide or are considered insane, God can heal you! The battlefield is in the mind. Watch the video below.
26. There are 3 types of covenants when you get married! I. A verbal covenant- the vows. 2. A written covenant- The marriage license and 3. The BLOOD Covenant (blood from the broken hymen on your wedding night) which is the most powerful covenant that there is; as is it a sacrifice and it seals the marriage deal in blood with a promise between the wife, the husband and God. There is power in this blood. That is why virgins are so awesome! This was God's plan for that blood. It is very valuable and a blessing to your marriage.(Deuteronomy 22:13-19) You were created to make love to only one person,your husband or your wife. So go ahead and begin to pray and ask God : WHO were you designed for? God knows all things!This was God's original plan for us all whether you want to believe it or not.
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Specializing in:
SINGLES MINISTRIES
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YOUTH MINISTRIES
SCHOOLS and UNIVERSITIES
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Cee Cee Michaela has never been married but has been abstinent for 8 years in preparation for marriage. The Lord has blessed her to teach thousands of girls across America about the importance of abstinence until marriage. Now she is honored to serve the grown up girls too. Those who want to be married, engaged couples, newlyweds and even those who need some refreshing in their marriage! She has had the honor of counseling engaged couples and singles who are waiting for about 3 years now! Her approach is always Biblical and very down to earth and REAL!
THE MOST BEAUTIFUL BLACK FAMILIES IN HOLLYWOOD/POLITICS...FINALLY EXPOSED!
THIS IS THE POSITIVE SIDE THAT THE MEDIA DOES
NOT WANT YOU TO SEE!
THEY ARE MAKING IT HAPPEN...AND SO CAN YOU!
Enjoy these pictures of various influential people who are enjoying
the family unit!
THE BEST NEWLYWED COUPLES
Surata Zuri and Ruben Studdard have been marrried for 8 months!
Laila Ali and Curtis Conway have been married for 1 year and 7 months
Nicole and Boris have been married for three years
Mary J and Kendu have been married for 5 years
Nasir and Jordan, her step children
Mary says "He completes me in the areas that I'm weak in. He's an analytical brain. I'm a creative brain. We pray together. We read the Bible together…I've never seen a man who loves the Lord like he does. He loves his family. He's a good person. He makes me laugh."
Ginna Torres and Laurence Fishburne have been married for 6 years
Their baby girl, delilah
Guy and Monica Torry have been for married 6 Years
Joe and Chrystal Torry have been married for 7 years
Veronique and AC Green have been married for 6 years.
AC was a 38 yr. virgin when he married!
Former Laker A.C. Green, famous for practicing abstinence before marriage, tied the knot April 20 in Laguna Niguel, and it has been one long honeymoon ever since.
"It has been an incredible two months," Green told the Portland Tribune, the city's twice-weekly alternative paper.
Besides all that, A.C. and Veronique Green have been to Fiji, Miami, the Caribbean and Spain since their wedding at the Ritz-Carlton.
"Being married and all that comes with it has been wonderful," said Green, 38. "It was worth the wait." Source: bnet
Salli Richardson and Dondre Whittfield have been married for 6 years
Chante and Kenny Lattimore have been married for 7 years!
Flex and Shanice Alexander have been married for 9 years!
Tamia and Grant Hill have been married for 10 years!
Angela and Courtney Vance haven been married for 12 years!
Holly Robinson and Rodney Peete have been married for 13 years
Desiree and Blair Underwood have been married for 14 years
Rev Run and Justine Simmons have been married for 14 years!
Stephanie and Lavar Burton have been married for 16 years
Sandi and Jesse Jackson Jr. have been married for 17 years
D.L. and LaDonna Hughley have been married for 23 years!
Denzel and Paulette with son, Malcolm
They have been married for 25 years!
His first role was in Wilma, a made-for-television biographical movie about Olympic star Wilma Rudolph. The best perk of this movie was that he met his wife, Paulette. They have been together since, and have four children, the oldest of which is John David, a running back for the St. Louis Rams. In 1995, Denzel and Paulette renewed their vows in front of Archbishop Desmond Tutu.
Bishop T.D. and Serita Jakes have been married 28 years!
Candy and Dr. Ben Carson have been married for 32 years!
Emily is a student, receiving the Ben Carson Scholar Fund
Colin and Alma Powell have been married for 47 years!
Apostle Fred and Betty Price have been married for 56 years!
I am in this fight...yes we can be happliy married!
The unmarried are being educated
and
marriages are being restored!
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THE BEST MAN IN WAITING/ PREP. BOOKS
"This book may save your life!"-Michael Eric Dyson
THE BEST WOMEN IN WAITING BOOKS
Book I would read first, esp. if you just started
waiting...being abstinent. Great for ages 22 and up.
Book I would read if you are older...above34/ 35 and have been waiting more than 5 years and/or abstinent for a long time!
BEST WOMEN IN WAITING ARTICLE
"They Thought I'd Never Get Married!"
by Bridgette Bartlett and Demetria L. Lucas
click on link below for the whole story
THE LARGEST WEDDING CAKE EVER!
Blair Underwood's Eiffel Wedding Cake
Actor Blair Underwood and his bride Desiree got the Cake Studio to create a six-and-a-half-foot Eiffel Tower Wedding Cake for their reception. "There were lights going up the structure, and in the center section was a replica of the couple dressed in their wedding outfits," says company owner Linda Goldsheft.
Actor Blair Underwood and his bride Desiree got the Cake Studio to create a six-and-a-half-foot Eiffel Tower Wedding Cake for their reception. "There were lights going up the structure, and in the center section was a replica of the couple dressed in their wedding outfits," says company owner Linda Goldsheft.
THE COOLEST WEDDING CAKE!
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Toni Braxton's Tiffany Cake
Singer Toni Braxton and Keri Lewis' wedding cake was designed by Atlanta's Mark Lotti and was a four-tier creation which looked like a perfect stack of four robin's-egg-blue Tiffany boxes. This theme carried throughout the wedding in which the carpeting, chair covers, and tablecloths were all custom-dyed to resemble Tiffany's trademark blue color.
Singer Toni Braxton and Keri Lewis' wedding cake was designed by Atlanta's Mark Lotti and was a four-tier creation which looked like a perfect stack of four robin's-egg-blue Tiffany boxes. This theme carried throughout the wedding in which the carpeting, chair covers, and tablecloths were all custom-dyed to resemble Tiffany's trademark blue color.
ONE OF THE SWEETEST GIFTS FOR HER...EVER!
Anything by...
Many women dream of getting the little blue box!
Some of the finest jewelry ever.
ONE OF THE BEST
AFRICAN AMERICAN DADS EVER!
Blair Underwood and his children
Actor Blair Underwood didn't rank number one on 2008 People's Sexiest Man alive list-leave that to BCK dad Hugh Jackman. However, the Dirty Sexy Money actor did make the list! Yet the father of three( Blair has a son named Paris, 11, and a son Blake,7, and a daughter Brielle,10) is surprised by the effect he has on women. Once while dropping off his kids, "a mother came up and grabbed my butt cheeks! And I'm like, 'How is that okay?' I was so caught off-guard that I couldn't help but laugh," says the married dad of three. He's shocked, but his kids "find it entertaining."
When not entertaining his kids, Blair enjoys traveling with his family and shooting home movies with his kids: "We shoot movies 'on location'. The kids write and star in them, and I direct them. We do posters and soundtracks too."And he admits the process has given Brielle the acting bug: "The boys couldn't care less, but my daughter is into it. We were shooting a scene in Rome, and she said to me, 'Can I get an agent and do this for real?' Oh man."
It is Blair's daughter Brielle who wants to know when she can have a playdate at the White house with First Daughters-elect, Sasha and Malia Obama. Brielle asked her dad not too long ago, "Daddy, when are we gonna have a playdate at the White House?" but Blair responded, [Laughs] "Yeah right."
Now that Malia and Sasha are getting a dog, Blair says that his kids now want a puppy of their own: "Oh please, my kids have been sweating me for a year and a half. Now they're like, "Look - the Obamas are getting one!"
About my wife and my dad's example
Well, you know, that's the fun stuff," he says. "And my wife got a big kick out of it. She knows it's just work and I'm coming home to her.
"My wife is my baby," the actor adds. "She puts it in perspective. I couldn't be married to someone who was uptight about me going to work or who had a problem with me working with certain actresses." Underwood has been married for 14 years to Hollywood executive Desiree DaCosta, with whom he has two sons, 8-year-old Paris and 4-year-old Blake, and one daughter, 6-year-old Brielle. He recently published a children's book called Before I Got Here, a collection of parents' stories and anecdotes speaking to the existence of a child's soul prior to birth.
"I'm a tough dad," Underwood says. "My dad was real cool, but a disciplinarian - we called him 'The Man of Steel and Velvet.' I try to pattern my fathering skills after him, but they can't get away with stuff." Copyright © 2009 Khaleej Times
About his love for his wife
And because of the personal history I have," says the very down-to-earth Blair Underwood, "the power of My Soul to Keep as the ultimate love story also appeals to me. This brother lives forever, and he is serious about his love--until the end of time. I like the idea of projecting that on the screen." Underwood reveals that his own parents have been married "forever," and the handsome actor is a devoted spouse himself, married to Desiree, with whom he has three young children. "My Soul to Keep just has everything," he concludes, "I'ts got drama, suspense and thrilling dynamics interwoven with an eternal love story.
ROMANTIC IDEAS!
